So how do we change circumstances, in what areas can we make a difference? The areas that we submit to God! Sounds so easy and such a pat answer, it's not. Our problem is, that we forget or we don't practice the reality of God's presence in lives. By this I mean we don't talk to Him about our pain, our emotion's and our desires. What's that old song? " I Surrender All" that includes more than sin, more than our immorality, it's so blatantly says ALL. ALL our pain, disappointment, our sense of having no control, our inability to forgive at times. The whole gamut of stuff! Just tell Him how you feel!